How does one react to a friend who recently had a family member pass away? How does one become a consolation? How does one comfort a friend in times of transitioning from world to another?? How the heck are you supposed to bring comfort to a friend when they’re in an uncomfortable situation? I cannot explain.

You see, I recently had a friend have a family member pass away. When anyone, no matter how that person relates to me, there’s always a part inside of me that causes a moment of melancholy thoughts. How is one supposed to bear the death of another person?? A person that you’ve known your entire life… a person that has always been there in times of discomfort… a person that brings joy to another’s world. This summer, he moved on. He’s in a better place.

Even though I don’t even know the guy, I feel sorry for my friend. But sadly, I don’t know how to react. What am I supposed to say to comfort?? Am I supposed to share a story of a death myself? Am I supposed to simply say,”I”m sorry for your misfortune?” I seriously am at a blank with the subject of death. I know I’m supposed to be some sort of consolation… but I don’t know HOW. I don’t know how to comfort someone when death falls upon their doorstep.

At times, I feel speechless when situations like this comes up. I say sorry. I say how I’m really sorry for their death… and everything will be good… and everything will fall into place. But what else?? I know there’s something to utter to be a consolation. I KNOW there is much more I can do to help a friend through the death of a loved one. But… how? I want to be there, to be one to comfort when moments such as this arises.

I over analyze things way too much.

Rest In Peace Clair. Rest In Peace.